Did you know:
That 28,258 Internet users are viewing pornography every second?
That every second, 372 Internet users are typing adult search terms into search engines?
If you have any suspicion at all that your husband may be involved in pornography you must not sit idle. Waiting around for evidence is just one form of denial. If your husband has nothing to hide then he should have no problems with your desire for accountability.
If you're ready to face the truth about men and pornography, there are some important pitfalls you need to avoid before you confront your husband.
1. Don't think it's just a "little problem".
2. Don't accept responsibility or blame for his problem.
3. Pornography is a spiritual issue.
4. You cannot fight the battle alone.First, pornography is not child's play. It quickly becomes an obsession that is just as powerful as a drug habit. It grips a person in a stranglehold that is nearly impossible to break. And similar to drugs, it leads people down a path of diminishing returns.
Second, if your husband is involved in pornography you may find yourself thinking that there is something wrong with you, his wife. Don't believe this lie for one second. It's critical that you point the finger in the proper direction because if you're willing to take the blame for his problem, he will never face up to it and without him owning up to the problem, it will never be resolved.
He most likely had an habitual sexual craving long before he met you. Regardless, it has nothing to do with your appearance or the way you perform in the bedroom.
Third, pornography is a spiritual issue because a man's own perceived needs have become his god and he constantly seeks out ways to worship himself through sexual gratification.
Your husband's problem with pornography is devastating to his soul. He is living a life of misery as he attempts to feed a growing monster that cannot be satisfied.
Finally, all this information would be very discouraging if you had to figure out how to deal with it all by yourself. Thank God that you don't.
God is a strong tower you can run to when it's time to face this battle. You must first seek His guidance and comfort. The most difficult, yet most important step to take, is to recognize your husband's need for redemption. You will have to take your eyes off of yourself, and the pain and anger you are rightfully feeling, and learn how you can help your spouse.
Ask God to give you the desire to find help for your husband. Seek a Christian marriage counselor that can lead you in the right direction. There are biblical principles you can implement in broken relationships that can make redemption, reconciliation and restoration possible.
If you want to save your marriage from the poison of pornography and restore trust and true intimacy to your marriage, you must take whatever steps are necessary to help break the bondage of your husband's pornography obsession.
That 28,258 Internet users are viewing pornography every second?
That every second, 372 Internet users are typing adult search terms into search engines?
If you have any suspicion at all that your husband may be involved in pornography you must not sit idle. Waiting around for evidence is just one form of denial. If your husband has nothing to hide then he should have no problems with your desire for accountability.
If you're ready to face the truth about men and pornography, there are some important pitfalls you need to avoid before you confront your husband.
1. Don't think it's just a "little problem".
2. Don't accept responsibility or blame for his problem.
3. Pornography is a spiritual issue.
4. You cannot fight the battle alone.First, pornography is not child's play. It quickly becomes an obsession that is just as powerful as a drug habit. It grips a person in a stranglehold that is nearly impossible to break. And similar to drugs, it leads people down a path of diminishing returns.
Second, if your husband is involved in pornography you may find yourself thinking that there is something wrong with you, his wife. Don't believe this lie for one second. It's critical that you point the finger in the proper direction because if you're willing to take the blame for his problem, he will never face up to it and without him owning up to the problem, it will never be resolved.
He most likely had an habitual sexual craving long before he met you. Regardless, it has nothing to do with your appearance or the way you perform in the bedroom.
Third, pornography is a spiritual issue because a man's own perceived needs have become his god and he constantly seeks out ways to worship himself through sexual gratification.
Your husband's problem with pornography is devastating to his soul. He is living a life of misery as he attempts to feed a growing monster that cannot be satisfied.
Finally, all this information would be very discouraging if you had to figure out how to deal with it all by yourself. Thank God that you don't.
God is a strong tower you can run to when it's time to face this battle. You must first seek His guidance and comfort. The most difficult, yet most important step to take, is to recognize your husband's need for redemption. You will have to take your eyes off of yourself, and the pain and anger you are rightfully feeling, and learn how you can help your spouse.
Ask God to give you the desire to find help for your husband. Seek a Christian marriage counselor that can lead you in the right direction. There are biblical principles you can implement in broken relationships that can make redemption, reconciliation and restoration possible.
If you want to save your marriage from the poison of pornography and restore trust and true intimacy to your marriage, you must take whatever steps are necessary to help break the bondage of your husband's pornography obsession.
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