Male Chastity and orgasm denial are a very common fantasy for men, but there is a problem: you can't really do them on your own.
Well, you can, but that's not what gets men going. Because, the thrill of it is in the man feeling like he has no choice in the matter and it's his wife or girlfriend doing it "to" him rather than "with" him.
This need to feel out of control is central to the hundreds of silly stories out there on blogs and forums from men claiming everything from the mysterious existence of the "inescapable chastity belt" (utterly false) to wives and girlfriends using "blackmail" in the form of photographs and divorce (too silly for words).
So the simple answer is to get your wife to hold your key and not to let you orgasm, right?
Right. But the problem with that is it might be simple, but it's not always easy. Talking about frankly sex can be difficult at the best of times for couples, and to confess to something quite out of the ordinary like male chastity and orgasm denial is even harder.
And as a result, many men go decades (literally) with this burning desire they have and never, ever get around to asking for what they want. Which is a terrible shame, because if you present it in the right way, male chastity can be very appealing for a woman.
So here are three tips to help you ask for what you want, without all the embarrassment and angst:
Don't make it all about the great sex.
From your point of view, you probably think promising her hot, no-holds-barred sex is going to be a sure winner. And while you can be assured your wife is going to enjoy this aspect of male chastity, it's NOT a big selling point for her at the outset. Instead, focus on the increased emotional intimacy and connection she will enjoy with you. That's far more enticing for most women.
Don't tell her you'll bow to her every whim. Not only does she almost certainly not want this (she wants a man not a doormat), but she simply won't believe you. You've probably made similar promises before, about how you'll be "more helpful around the house"... and you've never kept them before, so why would you keep them now? Rather, tell her your denied orgasms mean you'll naturally be more attentive, similar to how you were when you were first together. She'll be able to relate to this as a common, shared experience you've already had with her.
Show her, don't just tell her. Talk is cheap and easy. So it's usually much more effective to "walk the walk" rather than just "talking the talk". Next time you make love, focus on her and unilaterally forego your own pleasure. Don't make a big deal of it, and don't draw unnecessary attention to the fact you're then more attentive and loving (but DON'T pester her for sex!). If you then raise the subject the next time you make love after this (e.g. "Last time I didn't orgasm, and I felt a lot closer and more attentive to you"), she'll get the message. This then opens the doors for honest and open communication between you.
By following these three simple steps you're much more likely to get what you want without having to drop hints (which she simply never gets) or find yourself having to blurt out what, to her, is a very confusing and sometimes scary message.
Well, you can, but that's not what gets men going. Because, the thrill of it is in the man feeling like he has no choice in the matter and it's his wife or girlfriend doing it "to" him rather than "with" him.
This need to feel out of control is central to the hundreds of silly stories out there on blogs and forums from men claiming everything from the mysterious existence of the "inescapable chastity belt" (utterly false) to wives and girlfriends using "blackmail" in the form of photographs and divorce (too silly for words).
So the simple answer is to get your wife to hold your key and not to let you orgasm, right?
Right. But the problem with that is it might be simple, but it's not always easy. Talking about frankly sex can be difficult at the best of times for couples, and to confess to something quite out of the ordinary like male chastity and orgasm denial is even harder.
And as a result, many men go decades (literally) with this burning desire they have and never, ever get around to asking for what they want. Which is a terrible shame, because if you present it in the right way, male chastity can be very appealing for a woman.
So here are three tips to help you ask for what you want, without all the embarrassment and angst:
Don't make it all about the great sex.
From your point of view, you probably think promising her hot, no-holds-barred sex is going to be a sure winner. And while you can be assured your wife is going to enjoy this aspect of male chastity, it's NOT a big selling point for her at the outset. Instead, focus on the increased emotional intimacy and connection she will enjoy with you. That's far more enticing for most women.
Don't tell her you'll bow to her every whim. Not only does she almost certainly not want this (she wants a man not a doormat), but she simply won't believe you. You've probably made similar promises before, about how you'll be "more helpful around the house"... and you've never kept them before, so why would you keep them now? Rather, tell her your denied orgasms mean you'll naturally be more attentive, similar to how you were when you were first together. She'll be able to relate to this as a common, shared experience you've already had with her.
Show her, don't just tell her. Talk is cheap and easy. So it's usually much more effective to "walk the walk" rather than just "talking the talk". Next time you make love, focus on her and unilaterally forego your own pleasure. Don't make a big deal of it, and don't draw unnecessary attention to the fact you're then more attentive and loving (but DON'T pester her for sex!). If you then raise the subject the next time you make love after this (e.g. "Last time I didn't orgasm, and I felt a lot closer and more attentive to you"), she'll get the message. This then opens the doors for honest and open communication between you.
By following these three simple steps you're much more likely to get what you want without having to drop hints (which she simply never gets) or find yourself having to blurt out what, to her, is a very confusing and sometimes scary message.
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