The reality is that married couples no matter in what stage they are of their relationship will continue to face challenges. Those who have reached their 15th year, however, may already be capable enough to endure the trials moving forward compared to those who are just starting out. When you're enjoying your 15 years of togetherness, one can claim to have learned the skills in managing the various aspects of their marital relationship such as negotiating with in-laws when it comes to holidays, calming kids who throw a tantrum and talking things out including personal issues.
So if you'd like to make your bond last and enjoy your family, there are areas where you can still learn to improve particularly with regards to communicating with your spouse.
In the area of settling conflicts, psychologists say it's not always necessary to resolve your issues before you sleep as what many people believe. Although it should be an ideal thing to do, it should not be forced on if it isn't possible. Relationship experts explained that problems are not often resolved when spouses are mad. As they are overwhelmed with negative emotions at that instance, they are not usually able to settle their conflict. So it's fine to sleep on it and discuss the issue when both have recharged and are already calm.
A better way to handle your relationship is to spend a time every night to talk about the positive side of your marriage. This will give you both the opportunity to reflect on what you've done instead of discussing the weaknesses of each other. And don't forget to seal with your night with a kiss even if it's for a few seconds regardless of the emotion you're feeling. That act alone will be a reminder of your love for each other.
Don't also believe that just because you and your spouse have different interests, you will eventually find yourselves falling out of love. The contrary is what's actually true because experts have found that couples who have not many common interests are those who remain happy in their relationships. What matters is both of you take the effort to nurture your bond. As experts always say, it's important for couples to work as a team. This means the husband and wife should understand each other and find ways to resolve their issues.
Keeping your sex life alive is another important consideration. It's not true that just because you've reached your menopause age or mid-life your sexual drive should also decrease. A British study has actually found that some women who had gone through menopause claimed to enjoy their sex lives better than before. Their intimacy improved and they're more able to communicate well about their sexual needs.
So you see, there's reason to be happy when you're married despite the ups and downs. As long as you do your share in nurturing your relationship, your bond will endure through the years.
So if you'd like to make your bond last and enjoy your family, there are areas where you can still learn to improve particularly with regards to communicating with your spouse.
In the area of settling conflicts, psychologists say it's not always necessary to resolve your issues before you sleep as what many people believe. Although it should be an ideal thing to do, it should not be forced on if it isn't possible. Relationship experts explained that problems are not often resolved when spouses are mad. As they are overwhelmed with negative emotions at that instance, they are not usually able to settle their conflict. So it's fine to sleep on it and discuss the issue when both have recharged and are already calm.
A better way to handle your relationship is to spend a time every night to talk about the positive side of your marriage. This will give you both the opportunity to reflect on what you've done instead of discussing the weaknesses of each other. And don't forget to seal with your night with a kiss even if it's for a few seconds regardless of the emotion you're feeling. That act alone will be a reminder of your love for each other.
Don't also believe that just because you and your spouse have different interests, you will eventually find yourselves falling out of love. The contrary is what's actually true because experts have found that couples who have not many common interests are those who remain happy in their relationships. What matters is both of you take the effort to nurture your bond. As experts always say, it's important for couples to work as a team. This means the husband and wife should understand each other and find ways to resolve their issues.
Keeping your sex life alive is another important consideration. It's not true that just because you've reached your menopause age or mid-life your sexual drive should also decrease. A British study has actually found that some women who had gone through menopause claimed to enjoy their sex lives better than before. Their intimacy improved and they're more able to communicate well about their sexual needs.
So you see, there's reason to be happy when you're married despite the ups and downs. As long as you do your share in nurturing your relationship, your bond will endure through the years.
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